My dad cheated on my mom with a woman 20+ years younger than him and they were married for 32 years. I am so angry and I have so much hate that I just don't know what to do. My sister and brother have talked to him since it happened in August but I just can't I don't want to see him. I don't even like thinking about him anymore. My mom deserved better than that.

I could have forgiven you for cheating on me, for lying the entire time we dated. I could even forgive you for the way I found out the truth.


But I will NEVER forgive you for choosing her over me.

i think i'm in love with one of my best friends. he's brilliant, motivated, kind, easygoing, and brings out the best in me. after spending time with him, i feel as if i could conquer the world. if only he weren't attracted to men.

it took a year and a half, but i think I'm finally over him! But i'm afraid that all the feelings i've worked hard to get rid of will come back when i see him this summer...

Frequently Asked Questions

1. What is this project?
This project is the brainchild of a UNC-Chapel Hill student, run by multiple students. Its purpose is outlined here.


2. What is the point of this project?
I said, its purpose is outlined here.


3. Why are the moderators anonymous?
We thought it would make people uncomfortable to put a name or face with exactly who is reading their secrets. It's fairly easy to figure out who we are, and we'll certainly own up to it if you ask us in person, but we try to keep everything on the blog itself as anonymous as possible.


4. How did you come up with the idea?
The original idea came into being while a student was looking at PostSecret (to which we most humbly give credit and applause). A recently increased awareness of UNC-Chapel Hill as a community prompted her to wonder how the model of PostSecret might work if scaled down to the community level. After she was introduced to a certain college gossip website, she created the UNC-CH Secrets Project 2008 as a place where people could share only their own secrets, be totally anonymous, and expect not to be judged.


5. How do I post a secret?
See How It Works.


6. I submitted my secret a week ago and you haven't put it up. What gives?
Perhaps we were just out of town, or in the middle of midterms, or having a beer with Roy. If you suspect that was not the case, it is possible we rejected your secret. Before you re-submit/track us down with bloodhounds, you should ask yourself a few questions.

• Was it really a secret? You'd be surprised how many non-secrets we get.
• Was it anonymous?
  
• Was it longer than a few lines?
• Was it soliciting advice? While we wish you the best of luck with whatever your issue may be, that's not what this site is for.

An expansion on these and other guidelines can be found here. If you absolutely cannot find a reason for your secret to have been rejected, try again.


7. But the guy who posted at 11:34pm last Saturday's secret doesn't look like it follows those guidelines. No fair!
This blog really and truly is a work in progress. As we see what works and what doesn't, we change guidelines to make the final collection as close in format to our vision as possible. It's likely that the secret was submitted before we made up that rule about never using the letter W in a post, or that it just slipped by us.


8. How do I submit a comment?
There is a Comment link below each post. We review these too, so it may take some time for your comment to appear below the secret.


9. I posted a comment a week ago and you haven't put it up. The hell?
Again, a few questions.

• Was your comment negative or judgmental toward the poster of the secret?
• Was it actually about the posted secret?
• Did you offer unsolicited advice?
• Were you engaging in a discussion with other posters? While we're so pleased that the project is prompting discussion, we'd like to keep the focus of the site as simple and straightforward as possible; we hope you opt to talk about the secrets offline instead.
  

10. But I see comments on other posts that don't follow those guidelines. You are deceptive, unjust, and ill-dressed!
Again, the guidelines for the project have evolved over time, so what is accepted now may be different from what was accepted before. Secondly, the Moderators are human, and things may slip through their notice. Thirdly, the selection process is somewhat subjective, it is true. We may choose to post that which is in the spirit, if not the letter, of the law, and vice versa. Lastly, it's laundry day -- so sue us.


11. Why don't you update more regularly?
Our lives are just as busy as yours, this is a side project, and we update as often as we can, Scout's honor.

I miss you too...but I don't have the guts to do anything about it.

Sometimes I leave prayer requests about "my friend"...but they're really about me. I want to tell someone, but no one will ever ask.

I'm tempted to put my name up on juicycampus and see what people say about me...but I'm afraid that no one will say anything nice about me.

I am more upset over you saying we need to stop hooking up than I was the last time a boyfriend and I broke up. I deserve the real reason.
And we can't stay friends. We could stop hooking up, sure, but we can't stop wanting to.

I get very upset whenever a girl flirts with me or makes a pass at me. I know it's because I juxtapose that with the rejection I get from the only girl who really matters to me.

I check my phone many times a day in hopes that someone's called...no one ever does.

I love making guys in relationships feel really attracted to me. I would never follow through, but it's great sexual tension

I never knew the power that wearing lingerie gave you girls until I started wearing thongs.
No matter what may happen during the day, no one has any idea
ps I'm a guy...

In a boyfriend, looks matter more to me than almost anything else. I hope that changes soon, because I feel incredibly shallow

I am secretly proud that I have the self-discipline to stay thin, and I am secretly a little disgusted by people who don't

sometimes i touch myself and smell the pen you used. the sad thing is you have no idea who i am.

I'm still not happy. I've fixed so many of the things in my life that I hated: inability to make friends, lack of self-confidence, my weight issues. I'm a new person. I should feel on top of the world. And yet...

I only sleep around because I feel fat and ugly every day. You think I'm just a slut, but it makes me feel so pretty to know that guys I find attractive want me.

What you don't know is that I wish I could just stop more than anything in the world.

Both times, when we almost had sex, I didn't go soft right beforehand because I had just masturbated, or any other excuse I gave you, but because I felt sick at the thought of you being my first.

That was when I knew I had to break up with you, and I'm sorry it happened that way.

But I'm not sorry that we didn't have sex.

I'm a Duke fan. It feels so good to have a secret I'm keeping from the rest of campus!

I'm so afraid that my boyfriend will never love me as much as he loved his ex-girlfriend

eery weekend I go home with someone or bring them back to my place and I only make out with them but I do it because I don't like to sleep alone

THANK YOU for finally helping me to realize that you ARE NOT the perfect boy I was thinking you were! I was feeling as if I had missed out on the greatest guy in the world, and now I see that that isn't the case!
I can finally get over you now... Thank you thank you thank you!

I wish you would see that I don't just want to be your friend with benefits and I'm so paranoid about you finding someone else that I go out of my way to see you daily so that you don' t forget about me

I always thought I was the one who rejected you. Hearing you talk about her makes me think it's the other way around.

I don't think i really liked you. I'm just a selfish bitch.

We've never talked but I think he's right for me. I realize this sounds crazy.

We have more than one class together... one week left.

I'm sorry I ignore you. I know you must think I'm rude, but I just hate awkward moments and my instinct is to get away, quick.

I haven't gone to bed sober since December 1, 2007 because my boyfriend broke up with me.
I thought I was going to marry this man. He moved away, broke up with me over the phone and said we weren't allowed to talk.
Now, I think about it daily -- even 4.5 months later. What is wrong with me? How do I get closure?

I feel like I’m close to being engaged to someone but I keep thinking about my close friend. And how we slept together. And how I feel so wonderfully awkward around him like a middle-school crush. And how I want it to happen again.

Comment here to submit a secret 4/21/08